This. Because in order to have anybody you want, they have to…want you. And (typically) it takes more than a passing glance to up and leave a partner of months or years. Or even their state of being a single man, because im sure there are men who enjoy being single as much as some single women do. Men who have talked to me like they could have anybody got dumped. I told them to go on ahead: they could have almost anybody, but if that was their attitude, they sure as heck couldn’t have me.