White women, a term that's inclusive of middle-aged professional white women, have been and always will be on the roster for "flavor of the month" even if they don't get chosen every month. Shoutout to @Super Mrs. C. for saying it better than I could.

I have seen the tears of white women move mountains. White and BIPOC men alike will drop everything to come to the aid of white women, even if it hurts WOC (which it does).

Intersectionality is real, and we have to talk about it. I know a number of white women who have been through very real, awful experiences that I wouldn't wish on anybody. I have had many of the same experiences. In this day and age, white women are, for the most part, granted full personhood. In the United States, a developed county, the maternal mortality rate for Black women in comparison with women of other races speaks volumes. The fetishization and sexual violence against "exotic-looking" women who are treated more like dolls than people speaks volumes. We are women, too--we're just female and melanated at the same time.

I'm not saying that white women can't vent. Or express frustration. Or speak up and speak out about their experiences. But there is a level of safety that comes with being a white woman that your non-white female counterparts will never have. It is the fact that the police really are there to protect you. You can get as angry as you want in a meeting, and no one will act like they're afraid of you. You can go to the store and no one will assume that you're there to steal. No one sees a criminal when they look into your eyes.

Maybe, it's hard being invisible, but it's painful to be the kind of visible that goes hand in hand with the kind of oppression we never asked for. Black men are visible and stereotyped as gangbangers and criminals. Black women are visible and tone-policed, hypersexualized from a young age, and alarmingly more likely to die in childbirth than any other racial group in the United States. (The CDC has more on that here: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/hestat/maternal-mortality/2020/maternal-mortality-rates-2020.htm)

Asian women, including myself, are tired of our abuse being justified because society views us more as objects than real people. The maltreatment and murder of Indigenous women is an article, in and of itself.

Please leave George Floyd out of it. His public lynching has nothing to do with middle-aged white women being "flavor of the month."

Blessings.